Gina

Multiple early miscarriages between 1999 & 2009

Puerto Nuevo, BC, Mexico

I found out I was pregnant the day before my third child’s first birthday party. I’d had miscarriages before, so I knew better than to announce the pregnancy, but we had a huge party and everyone was there and I was so excited. Very shortly afterward I noticed the faintest pink spotting. I tried to pretend like it wasn’t there, but over the next several weeks it came and it went, sometimes heavy, sometimes light, sometimes red, sometimes brown. Each time it changed I tried to tell myself a different story, make up a different excuse. It’s just old blood, it’s because we had sex, last time it stopped so this time it will stop too, etc…Normally when I miscarried I started bleeding, it grew heavier, and then the miscarriage happened, end of story. But that time was so much different that I convinced myself something different was going on entirely.

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Megan

Mom to Baby Cassanova, miscarried on May 5, 2010

Hermosillo, Sonora, Mexico
 

I met my husband in September 2008 when I moved down to Hermosillo, Mexico to teach ESL for a year. We met at church my first week here and immediately hit it off. We got married in December 2009. We initially had decided to wait one year before trying to conceive. But we also kind of took the ¨we´re not going to do anything to prevent it, so if it happens, it happens¨ approach. Lo and behold, 4 months into our marriage, I got pregnant. I felt so blessed and was so thankful that it happened so quickly. I was thrilled. Abe was more nervous and scared. But either way, we were happy and excited.

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Karina
Mom to "Huevito" (Little Egg)
Miscarried at 12 weeks on July 5th, 2008
Mexico

I was 30 years old. It was my first pregnancy. I had recently married and moved to another country (Germany). It was an unexpected pregnancy that caused a lot of fears and anxieties, but in the end I was incredibly happy and at peace... I remember I used to feel like a goddess, blooming, growing.

Very early, around 5 weeks, I started spotting and cramping, so I went to the doctor. She told me everything was fine and that mild bleeding and cramping were normal at the beginning of pregnancy and gave me another appointment.

Then, I went through the worst weeks of my life. The waiting time was hell. Blood tests and ultrasounds every week, just hoping to see the little baby appearing on the US screen. The diagnoses was confirmed at 10.5 weeks and I chose to have a natural miscarriage, which took several days. He was gone on July 5th, when I was 12w.

I went through the process being far away from my family and friends, in an unknown place, in a language I hadn't learned. Sometimes I think it was the beginning of the end of my marriage...

If losing a baby is painful, losing a baby that was not socially recognized or seen in the screen can be even more difficult in a way. It was like it never happened for my family and friends, it was just a weird fluke, a little incident.

You can contact Karina at karinaer@yahoo.com